tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-541617152207485672.post9018132022994680856..comments2010-04-15T11:38:58.573-05:00Comments on Moms and Adoption: Here we go again.....Kristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14722319327079489528noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-541617152207485672.post-53621196737581981042010-04-15T11:38:58.573-05:002010-04-15T11:38:58.573-05:00Just checking in with you Kristina. Thinking of y...Just checking in with you Kristina. Thinking of you - take care. PeggyPeggyThomsenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18002199099368695728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-541617152207485672.post-65280712756147026532010-03-31T22:50:22.571-05:002010-03-31T22:50:22.571-05:00Kristina,
You wrote, "I feel like I am falli...Kristina, <br />You wrote, "I feel like I am falling apart". <br />You are a collection of many parts and many qualities Kristina. You have a problem-solving part, a learning part, a knowlegable part, an observing part, a sensitive part. When you make a plan with Isabella and her half does not get done. . . you sill have a problem-solving part. You are complete. I suspect that Isabella is very immature in some abilities - social skills and family skills especially. I expect that your idea of talking with her more often is great and sounds great to her (to have your attention, etc.) Since she does not initiate contact - she needs an adult partner to do it for her . . . initiate the contact. Hey Isabella, I'm here for our talk. Dad has the little girls. I'll come sit with you for the next 10 minutes. We can talk or we can just share some peaceful silence. Maybe I will tell you a little (happy) story about my day, or tell you some (positive) things I observed about you today." Your idea to spend time with Isabella shows me that part of you is longing to connect with her. Even when all you can see is your despairing part, remember that you have a hopeful part too. Kristina you and Mike can use ALL of the very best parenting practices AND they can be entirely ineffective with a child who lacks a srong foundation of permanence and constancy. I've got to go to bed. Take care of you.PeggyThomsenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18002199099368695728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-541617152207485672.post-33499454927998318702010-03-30T08:27:23.644-05:002010-03-30T08:27:23.644-05:00I just now read this blog, Kristina. So, what has...I just now read this blog, Kristina. So, what has transpired since Friday? Just wondering how you are doing today and how the rest of your family is.Lisa Hoffmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02503438494266727509noreply@blogger.com